For many in recovery they feel that the objective is to gain and maintain control over their addictions and their lives. Actually the real objective may be better thought of as management, you need to manage your relationship to the things in your life both positive and negative. The difficulty of course here, as Kopp highlights, is you have to do this even when you don’t feel empowered or adequately informed all the while maintain the belief that it will all turn out OK. I have come to believe this is the essence of faith.
Overcoming addictions can be a long and bumpy road. At times, you may even feel that it will be impossible. But it’s not. If you’re ready to end your self abusive addictive habits and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from abuse—no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. You don’t have to wait until you hit rock bottom; you can make a change at any time. The question is are you willing to put your faith in yourself and those willing to help you?
You can’t do it alone you need a community that truly has your best interest at heart, and if you have been brought to this blog then you are surely ready to begin to take your life back and begin living the life you deserve! You see, many look to the outside world to tell us how to live, or what to do, or what to say, how to feel, etc. The truth is no one but you can live your life, you and you alone are responsible for making your life what it is.
Taking the first steps toward recovery is not about blind faith, believing in a well crafted marketing pitch touting “the latest greatest recovery treatment”, or the result of listening to the words of some so called expert who more often than not is simply eloquently stating the obvious, its about accepting you are powerless over your addiction - that your life has become unmanageable. It’s about taking responsibility for your life, and taking that first step toward recovery.
Recovery is a gradual process. In the early stages of change, denial is a huge obstacle. Even after admitting to yourself you have a problem, you may make excuses and drag your feet. It’s important to acknowledge your ambivalence about your addictions, and continue on despite how you are feeling in the moment. This is why having the support of others in recovery is so important. When you feel moments of powerlessness you can hold onto others who are walking a similar path to your own. Many will try to persuade you to have faith in all manner of devices and treatment options, and although those may help, the only thing you really need to have is faith in is yourself.