So what happens when you reach the stage in your recovery when you have learned to manage yourself and you are finally free from the grip of your addictions? This can be both a liberating and a daunting phase of recovery. The question becomes what do you want to accomplish and how will you get there? Here are some important steps you can take to ensure you accomplish your goals no matter what they are.
Envision your future
· Ask yourself what is the life you have always wanted. What would that look like? What would you be doing? Who would be there with you? Indulge yourself - don’t be afraid to dream big.
Write it down
· Write a letter to the future you. Describe what you are doing, how it feels to be there and what you have accomplished.
· Surround yourself with little reminders of your vision. If you want a new car, for instance, place a miniature version of the car you want in a place you will always see it to remind you of your goal.
Make a plan
· Revisit your plan and break it down into manageable parts and begin to address each part individually by crafting a practical plan to attain each.
· Move forward with an open mind. Things don’t always turn out the way we envision, but by locking ourselves into one of way of looking at things, we block the possibility of something better. Be open to possibilities.
Don’t get bogged down in the little things
· No matter what you feel in the moment - lonely, self-critical, tired, lazy, or disappointed - do something to maintain momentum, even if it’s one little thing.
There’s an old adage that says that true courage isn’t about not feeling fear; it’s about feeling fear and acting anyway.
Find your place in the sun!