Typically, resolutions made in response to negative behaviors or actions from our past, are those we hope not to repeat. But when we get caught in the push and pull of lamenting the past and or concentrating too much on the future, we often miss the importance of simply living each day fully. We get attached to the expectation that our lives will be better if only we can fulfill our resolutions. As anyone in recovery would surely attest, unmet expectations can lead to many issues - particularly low self-esteem or depression, making you vulnerable to the very behaviors you want most to leave behind. Although the impulse to move ahead is good, without hard work and a good support network the chances of failing are increased. It is important to realize you will never be perfect, and that by reaching out to others for support, you can stay focused and realistic.
Here are a few guidelines when setting goals:
1. Set just a few goals
2. D.E.S.I.G.N your goals. Design is an acronym for a system that will allow you to continually evaluate your progress and adjust as needed to ensure your goal is attained.
Define the goal specifically / clearly
Explore the possibilities
Select a course of action or approach
Illustrate your goal either by writing it down or some other creative way (e.g. an electronic presentation you can carry around with you as inspiration)
Generate or go after your goal
Note what is working and what is not and adjust or redefine as needed
Share your goals only with those in your life who you know will truly support you (and challenge you)
Our goal here at Continuum Recovery Management Specialists is to help guide you in setting realistic goals and achieving them. Whatever your resolution for this year is, in the end the best New Year’s resolution is to simply find the resolve to commit to living each precious day purposefully, respectfully asking for help when you need it, and graciously offering assistance when you can.